Once in my class, our lecturer, who is a psycho-analyst as well, raised a question to us - “What would you do if you find your friend depressed and crying?” Many answered that I’ll console him/her or I’ll crack a joke and try to make her smile, and so on. But, it was only one girl, who said, “I will probably give him/her a hug, and will that person talk about the problem.” As a psycho-analyst, my lecturer said, it is that HUG, that intimacy is what will be needed by the needy, especially one who’s in depression or by anyone whose emotional spirit is at the top of the world, at that moment.
Now that I’ve listened to it, I wondered…..have I hugged anyone else, other than my parents? I might have felt like hugging, but have I ever hugged for a cause? Hug is originated from huggar - to soothe, console; akin hogian – to care for… Did you know that there is a Hug Day – Jan 21st, celebrated in US? Seriously, there is no better gesture to emote our feelings, than a lovely hug!
You hug a person in depression. It symbolizes the gesture of a friendly care. It’s a hug that expresses, “I am always there with you, for you, through thick and thin. Do not worry.” You hug a person who is dwelling in seventh heaven. It is a gesture of love and it expresses your hearty congratulations and how happy and proud you are, for him/her.
You hug a person, a stranger, who is desperate and in need. It is a gesture of motherly care, just to pep them. The hug means to say, “Do not feel lonely, though unknown, I am there by your side, to render my support, in my best possible manner. It is a hug that symbolizes service for the needy.
Now! Now! I know what peeps out from your mind. Feeling a touch of nostalgia of reading the script of that ‘Katipudi Vaidhyam’ from Vasool Raja MBBS? May be yes! This is inspired from that movie! I am a great supporter of that ‘Hug Therapy’. But, it so happens many in this society, are under the notion that, intimacies such as hugs, are restricted to on TV programs, and as an Aam Aadhmi, a common man, if hugs are shared, that too between a guy and a girl, unmindful of however the act is justifiable, Alas! It is atrocious! Indecent! Public Nuisance!
This just spot lights such people’s narrow minds. They just do not seem to realize the more pure side of such a gesture, that connects heart to heart.
Just think…How you wished you could hug your mom or a close friend, and let out your sorrows, how you wished you could have jumped and hugged your best buddy, when you see him/her after a long time, how you wish you could have hugged him/her, during farewell, how you wish you could have given a hug to each and everyone of those, in the home, who have been stranded by their sons and daughters, and express how sorry you are for them, but had hesitated to emote so and restricted yourself, simply because others might find it indecent or over doing?
I just wish to put a word into the minds of such confined thinkers that, HUG will elevate you to the next hierarchical level and will disguise you, for that moment, into that holy being in need, by that indigenous person. To me, hug is a cute handshake between two hearts. Sometimes it is better to put love and expressions into clasps of hugs, than to put them into words. After all, a hug is worth a billion words.
K. SRILAKSHMI, III Year, B.E. Civil Engineering, Meenakshi Sundararajan Engineering College
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