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EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT It’s hard when you are feeling let down but it’s even harder to overcome it. USHA JESUDASAN

One of the most common attacks that our mind suffers is disappointment. All of us have been disappointed at some time or the other — we may have expected good marks in our exams but would have actually failed, or wanted a particular gift for our birthday only to receive something else… the list of disappointments is endless. Disappointment gives us a sharp pang in our hearts. Sometimes we find it difficult to breathe; our mind becomes numb; we would want to lie down and not get up again. We find it difficult to face people and just want to be left alone. Disappointment can also make us angry. When we are angry, we tend to lash out at those closest to us. This is where the strength of our mind is needed most. There are some important things that we need to remember at times of disappointment.

DOs:

• Take a good look at what happened. Were you in some way responsible for it? If so, tell yourself, “Next time I will do better,” and work towards it.
• Talk to someone. They will encourage you and help you see where you went wrong.
• Think about what you can learn from this experience. Remember that disappointments are an opportunity to grow emotionally and spiritually.
• Look up the internet to read and learn from the stories of people who have dealt with disappointment.
• Pray for strength to go through this difficult time.

DON’Ts:

• Don’t keep anger buried inside you. It will only hurt you. Instead, talk it out with someone you trust.
• Don’t give up saying, “That’s it. I’m not going to do it any more.”
• Don’t judge yourself. One disappointment or failure does not mean that you are useless.
• Don’t blame God or your parents.

If you need help, email the author at: ushajesudasan@gmail.com

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